top of page
LIFE IN THE PICKLE JAR
lifeinthepicklejar
Jul 14, 20233 min read
Death, Taxes & Narcissism
Post narcissistic abuse, there are 3 things I know to be certain. Death. Taxes. And the narc will always keep on narc'ing. For 2 weeks...
49 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Jun 13, 20232 min read
Not If, But When
Hoovering - is a behavior associated with narcissism as it is a baiting tactic that serves a narcissist's pursuit for attention and...
47 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Jun 10, 20235 min read
1,000 Paper Cuts
Fear and shame are the very things the narcissist counts on to control the survivors, keep survivors in isolation, and to be silent about...
33 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Jun 1, 20236 min read
Out of Thin Air
It can take a lifetime to shed light on, reconcile, and heal the trauma trapped within a nervous system caused by covert narcissistic...
59 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
May 31, 20237 min read
Blocked
Why does a narcissist block someone? Simple, the answer is it is a form of punishment for not serving them. With a covert narcissist, a...
57 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Apr 29, 20234 min read
Life Begins at 41
Universally, narcs ruin any day or situation that pulls the attention away from them. Narcs suck the joy out of daily life, holidays, and...
59 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Apr 27, 20236 min read
Wardrobe Control
In Feb 2022, after he shuttered my businesses and then fired me from his company, I had no personal money. He had my credit card maxed...
61 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Apr 20, 20235 min read
Morally Bankrupt
Narcs use people. It really is that simple. They are incapable of caring for or loving anyone. They don’t love themselves. Narcissism at...
33 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Apr 7, 20235 min read
Invalidation
Narcissists invalidate people so naturally, so subtly, it's almost missed in real-time. Narcissists invalidate in order to protect...
58 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Mar 29, 20234 min read
Hear the Smear
Listen for it. His denial. His long-winded answers as they turn into explanations of why the sky is green. His shifting of blame. Word...
34 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Mar 25, 20237 min read
I Do(n't).
Why do narcissists bother getting married? It's a question I have endlessly mulled over. Why did he even bother marrying me when he knew...
55 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Mar 22, 20238 min read
Addicted?
It is fact, narcissism comes with addictions. Some experts say there are at least 3 addictions for every Narc. Why do they have...
56 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Feb 28, 20238 min read
Behind Closed Doors
Something rarely talked about or even known about, unless you’ve been in a relationship with a Narc, is psychosexual abuse. We often say...
45 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Feb 19, 20236 min read
It's Abuse
What's the difference between psychological, emotional, and physical abuse? In simple terms, nothing. They are all choices made by the...
56 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Feb 17, 20234 min read
Word Salad
The term “word salad” refers to a circular language tactic used by one individual to ensure that talks never end positively for the...
45 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Feb 13, 20236 min read
Reprogramming
The after-effects of living with a covert narcissist can be felt for months or even years. Our entire body and our brain are affected by...
29 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Feb 2, 20236 min read
Collecting Red Flags
Consistent and Unresolved Jealousy = Red Flag Narcissism at its core is a low sense of self-esteem. This makes it extremely easy for...
27 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Jan 29, 20234 min read
The Ease of Lying
Blatant. Shameless. He would look me square in the eyes and lie. My nervous system would activate, I knew he was lying and I would tell...
36 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Jan 22, 20235 min read
Flying Monkeys
Narcissists use people around them to invalidate, check on, discredit and isolate their supply. Think of it as their inner supply,...
66 views0 comments
lifeinthepicklejar
Jan 19, 20236 min read
Transactional
Narcissists look at every relationship and interaction as a transaction. Meaning, they must receive something from everyone in their...
42 views0 comments
bottom of page