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LIFE IN THE PICKLE JAR


Paralyzing Freedom
Finally, divorced. For the 2nd time. It wasn’t my plan, it wasn’t something I wanted in either relationship. The 6.5-month battle with...
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Mar 18, 20237 min read
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The "Family" Man
Woe is Me In the trenches of covert narc abuse, when he played the recording of Nikki & the kids saying they all wanted to move outside...
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Mar 16, 202310 min read
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Control
Narcissists need control over people, places, and things to get their needs met above all else. Nobody else matters. They use a variety...
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Mar 12, 20236 min read
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Insidious Shame
It's so easy to judge our past selves for not knowing better. We shame and guilt ourselves into an invisible prison cell. We "should" all...
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Mar 4, 20237 min read
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Behind Closed Doors
Something rarely talked about or even known about, unless you’ve been in a relationship with a Narc, is psychosexual abuse. We often say...
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Mar 1, 20238 min read
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It's Abuse
What's the difference between psychological, emotional, and physical abuse? In simple terms, nothing. They are all choices made by the...
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Feb 19, 20236 min read
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Word Salad
The term “word salad” refers to a circular language tactic used by one individual to ensure that talks never end positively for the...
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Feb 17, 20234 min read
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Reprogramming
The after-effects of living with a covert narcissist can be felt for months or even years. Our entire body and our brain are affected by...
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Feb 13, 20236 min read
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Why Did I Stay?
Hindsight is almost always 20/20. At the end of a narcissistic relationship, there is rarely closure. It is incredibly difficult to make...
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Feb 8, 20235 min read
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Programmed
A Narc deliberately gains psychological and emotional control over another for their supply. By the Narc refusing to acknowledge...
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Feb 7, 20236 min read
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It's A Pattern
Narcissists will stop at nothing to humiliate, embarrass, shame, and endlessly perpetuate their lies to boost their own esteem. They need...
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Feb 6, 20235 min read
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Pre-meditated & Calculated
Narcissists carefully study their prey during the love-bombing stage. They mirror empathy to get to know the most vulnerable parts of...
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Feb 5, 20235 min read
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It's More Than Jealousy
Healthy jealousy in a relationship can be communicated and logically resolved. Naturally, we all fill in communication gaps with our own...
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Feb 4, 20236 min read
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Collecting Red Flags
Consistent and Unresolved Jealousy = Red Flag Narcissism at its core is a low sense of self-esteem. This makes it extremely easy for...
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Feb 2, 20236 min read
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The Ease of Lying
Blatant. Shameless. He would look me square in the eyes and lie. My nervous system would activate, I knew he was lying and I would tell...
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Jan 29, 20234 min read
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Picking up The Pieces
What does healing look like after narcissist abuse? I had no idea what I just experienced, let alone know where to begin or how to pick...
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Jan 26, 20234 min read
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Flying Monkeys
Narcissists use people around them to invalidate, check on, discredit and isolate their supply. Think of it as their inner supply,...
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Jan 22, 20235 min read
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Transactional
Narcissists look at every relationship and interaction as a transaction. Meaning, they must receive something from everyone in their...
lifeinthepicklejar
Jan 19, 20236 min read
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Trauma Bonded
As I spoke to my attorney about the cameras in the house, he asked “you were aware he was filming you”....me ”yes”.....him: ”so you were...
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Jan 15, 20234 min read
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Hi. (H)ealing (I)nside
My name is Michele, I was born & raised on a proper Midwest working farm in rural Illinois. I grew up with a loving extended family...
lifeinthepicklejar
Jan 11, 20235 min read
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